People Skills

​Sociable​
As an ESTJ, I have found some characteristics that enable me to have good skills when it comes to dealing with other people.  I can be described accurately as a good person who is very understanding. I care about both individuals I encounter and society as a whole.  For example, I care about the people in my life but also about groups of people in the world getting the rights they deserve.  Additionally, I treat everyone equally and value everyone.  I usually think people are good and honest until they prove other wise. Part of being an extrovert is how comfortable I am around people.  I have good feelings towards people and can usually make friends very quickly.  I may be guarded around new people and not fully open up right away, but after a few minutes or a little getting to know I am easy to bond with.  I can be very expressive and easy to get to know.  I prefer face-to-face interactions versus ones that occur through righting or on the phone.  I am between gregarious and intimate though so these can change depending on how I am feeling that particular day.  Also, I often am the one to initiate contact with others and talk to them first which gives the advantage of being more comfortable.  This and patience helps to bring out the best in people.

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Problem Solving

Being an ESTJ allows me to base judgments on logic and see relationships between things.  I am also reasonable and think about things before I sense them.  This allows me to be able solve problems that arise very easily.  More specifically, I can handle disputes between people and even myself and other people. When it comes to making a decision on a situation feeling matter.  However, I can make objective decagons that are not affected by my emotions.  Emotions are viewed as data to weigh which allows me to think logically and not make decisions without weighting the pros and cons.  I take the time to see both sides of a situation before judging. I take the time to think of all the possible outcomes to a decision as well as all the other options available5.  Usually, once I have come to a decision I am satisfied and relieved.  I can be fearless and stay calm in rough situations.  People come to me often because I am good at listening and giving advice.

 

​Affects of Sociable and Problem Solving​
Sometimes I can get so caught up in helping other people that I forget about myself. I am also sensitive to what others think and feel either about me or in general which affects my emotions.  Because I am sensitive to others I can clearly see when I am being treated unfairly.  This can make some people upset with me because I stand up for myself and sometimes talk without thinking when my emotions do take over.  Some people may have a hard time understanding me, which can lead to feelings of isolation.  This in turn can cause me to feel a little resentful, bitter, angry, vulnerable, or depressed at times.  Saying yes constantly to helping others can drain me and there are times where I do not want to help others because I need time to focus on others things.​